Blind Dates

    We all cringe when we hear this phrase. We imagine the worst possible scenario when we imagine what a blind date will be like. I am sure there are more horror stories on blind date experiences than there are successful stories.


    There are two different types of blind dates. There are the ones where the ‘blind date’ is a friend of someone you know. Those are probably not as scary because you trust your friend and their judgment, and you think they know you well enough to know what you like in a man. Then there are the totally blind dates. You never met him and no one you know has ever met them. Usually these types are the ones that you meet off a dating site.

    These horror stories are what prevented me from going on a blind date.

    Since I have been divorced a year, I have dated a couple of men. I guess I can call them men. The first one I dated was really soon after my divorce and I think I came off kind of needy. I have not dated in over 17 years, so all this was new to me. In fact, I never really dated because I was always in long term relationships. Suffice it to say, that relationship did not last too long. Only after the breakup did I find out it was not dating, and that he was just “helping out an old friend.” Funny. That is a story on its own.

    The next person happened to be someone from my past. We went out to dinner. I am not sure where either one of us thought this may be going, but it went no where. We still remain friends. He is a very nice man.

    After that, I have corresponded with different men over email, text, and phone calls. I think I am too afraid to date anyone from a dating site. It just seems too scary for me. I did agree to meet someone that I met off a site after we talked and sent text messages back and forth for a few weeks. We never seemed to get out schedules in sync to get together. We finally did and it was odd. I am sure we were both nervous, but I will remember never to go on a first date, let alone a blind date, to dinner. We both were forced to sit together until dinner was done. It seemed like we were both struggling for conversation when what we should have done was just got up and said our good-byes and left.

    I have yet to get “fixed up” with anyone my friends know. I have on friend that wants me to meet one of her husbands’ friends, but I think I will just wait and see what happens in my life. I don’t need a man in my life to be happy. I have many dreams that I want to pursue, and I think a man in my life may just complicate it.
   
   So, based on my past experiences lately, I am now putting the dating thing on hold.